Dear Significant Other,

I don’t know who you are. I don’t know what your sex or your gender or your age or what nationality you might be. I don’t know if you identify as dom or sub or kinky or none of the above. I tend to imagine you as a submissive boy, around my age, who has some ideals and interests that are similar to, or compatible with, my own. It’s to that boy that I’m writing.
Please try to get to know me. That’s how I’ll recognise you. You’ll be the guy who shows an interest. You’re interest will not wax and wane based on weather you’re horny. You’ll want to know about my kinky interests, but a list won’t be enough for you. You’ll want to uncover wishes and desires I don’t even know about yet. You’ll want to know about my non-kinky interests. You’ll want to know what kinds of food I eat and what I think about religion and politics and technology and gardening and society and sex and everything else imaginable. You’ll want to know what I hate and what I love and what I fear and the kind of person I want to be. You’ll want to know about my past and my future and about my dreams and goals and insecurities and quirks. You’ll want to know what sounds I make when I’m having an orgasm and what face I make when I am scared of something but don’t want anyone to know. You’ll want to know where my birthmark is. You’ll want to kiss it when you find it. You won’t be content with asking one time, “so what do you do for fun?” Whatever short answer I give you in return will stimulate further questions and conversation. You’ll want conversation. Lots of it. About ideas and opinions and beliefs and people and things. You’ll want to educate yourself about the things that interest me and teach me about the things that interest you. You’ll want to know about the mundane activities in my day and what’s been on my mind lately. When I am not sharing with you, for whatever reason, you’ll want to push and challenge me. Encourage me to acknowledge superficiality and dig deeper. Doing so will not make me think you are not submissive. Don’t worry about that. You’ll recognise the fact that you’re never going to be done knowing me because there will always be more to learn. I will always be growing and changing and having new experiences and ideas.
And so will you.
You’ll want to know all of that and more and you’ll want to share all of those things with me. You’ll want to open yourself to me, even if that makes you feel vulnerable. Especially if that makes you feel vulnerable.
This is how I’ll recognise you. I’ll recognise the questions you ask and the answers you give. I’m looking forward to meeting you. I’m looking forward to knowing you. I hope it happens soon.
Sincerely,
Me